If someone were to ask me what the lowest point in my life was, I’d say:
The point at which I had no direction at all.
Waking up to a job that you hate everyday is awful in itself. But, hating your job, while knowing you have an incredible amount of potential in which you’re not using is even worse. You can almost feel your soul being sold to the devil (a.k.a. to corporate).
But, how could I change course when I was clueless about what I wanted or where I wanted to go? I couldn’t.
I felt stuck.
So if this is what you’re experiencing right now (or some version of it)…
I feel you. Which is why I want to help you break free. I want to help you create a vision that makes you jump out of bed every morning (or at least be the hope that gets you through your current workday right now).
First off, take comfort in knowing that you won’t be lost and confused forever! You veered off course into the middle of nowhere…that’s all. With a strong desire to get back on track and a little bit of effort, you’ll be cruising down a much more thrilling path in no time.
To help get you unstuck and moving and grooving onto your right path, here are 4 simple steps to establishing some direction back into your life:
1. Get clear on what you don’t want. I’m assuming at this point you’ve had your share of less than desirable jobs so this step should be a piece of cake. Carve out at least 20 minutes of your time and write down all the things you don’t want moving forward. Imagine a road map. Which roads are you not willing to take because they don’t feel good? (For example, sales, non-profit, restaurant business, retail, etc.) Which tasks or work environments do you know 100% are not the right fit for you? Name as many things as you can that you’re confident in saying, “Nope. Not going down there again.”
2. Get clear on what you do want. You don’t want to end up right back in a job you hate. Therefore, you must take the time to figure out what you do want before jumping head first into a new endeavor.
Luckily, through contrast comes clarity. For example, if you know that working weekends is not your cup of tea then you’ll probably have a better idea of your ideal schedule moving forward. Or let’s say that working under a corporate umbrella despises you, maybe a smaller organization or doing your own thing sounds more appealing. This is where you get to poke around.
What does your ideal workday look like? (p.s. You don’t have to know exactly what your dream job title is right now.) Just see what comes up. It may surprise you! This will help bring your deeper interests and curiosities to the surface. This is the time to reflect and do nothing else. What makes you come alive when you think about it?
3. Make a plan. Take a good, hard look at your current reality and start taking inventory of what needs to change so that your actions are in alignment with your new desires. (You can’t begin to move in a new direction, if you’re steering course in the old.) Set small daily goals that will get you closer to your larger goal. Decide on what can be changed right now and what you can withstand a bit longer.
For example, maybe through the exploration phase you’ve come to the realization that you really want to join a volunteer organization in Africa for two months. So, you create a plan to start saving X amount of money every week.
(Just by setting a goal that excites you will create the momentum for more positive change). What plan of action feels like freedom?
4. Take action. This is where you actually start saving the money or schedule a call with the volunteer organization.
As you slowly start to steer away from your current path and toward your new one, you’ll begin to feel a strong sense of freedom. Just follow where this freedom and excitement take you. This is your new path.
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