Are You Kidding Me ?

May 14, 2014 | Written with Love By: Shaina Leis

Oh, the dissapointment. How will I ever show my imperfect self to the world? The gossip! The stares! The laughs! How will I live? What if people see me for what I really am?

If we aren’t careful, we can fall into one of two traps. The first is the perfectionist trap. A perfectionist will do everything in his or her power to act perfect and look perfect to avoid, prevent and minimize critisicm from others. The second trap is the comfort zone. A person living in the comfort zone will do everything in his or her power to stay in the “safe” place that’s familiar to avoid, prevent and minimize criticism from others.

These “shields” that so many of us hold up are actually doing more harm than good. Imagine striving to uphold the cooke cutter image of “perfect” all of the time?…exhausting. Imagine trying to live in a box for the rest of your life? Terrifying.

There are three teams in the game of imperfection. The first team carefully plans its every move to avoid making any mistakes. The second team remains on the bench, observing from the sidelines. The third team shows up ready to get all sorts of dirty: make mistakes, take risks out in the field and try out new skills.

Team three:

isn’t afraid to show up as their true self, flaws and all.

isn’t afraid to be exposed, vulnerable and look like complete fools sometimes.

knows not everyone will like them and being OK with that.

understands people’s judgements have nothing to do with them at all.

Team three rocks. Showing up as the real, authentic me is way more freeing. And I always choose freedom.