You’re already a highly motivated person! In fact, there’s no such thing as motivated people vs. unmotivated people. Isn’t that great news? Join me as I teach you how to get your juices flowing so that you take consistent action, commit and refuse to give up on your goals and dreams.
WHAT YOU’LL LEARN:
- Why I’m not any more motivated than you!
- The #1 trait you’re actually lacking in starting and achieving your goals
- WHY I choose to take massive, consistent action daily (even among the many setbacks and lows that I experience)
- The driving force that’s even more powerful than passion that will get you to the finish line
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Welcome back everybody. Thanks so much for being here as always.
Just a quick heads up before we get underway, this will be the last episode until the New Year…I’m granting myself permission to take a 2-week holiday break.
Now of course, seeing that this podcast is so fresh and so new, I toyed with the decision, because my egoic mind was like, “Are you nuts? Experts in the podcast field would scold you for this. Consistency, consistency, consistency.”
However, I feel really good about…and at the end of the day, that’s all that matters right? Making my own rules.
And not only am I letting my essential self-take precedence, but I also developed what I believe is a very important, must-hear series for you that consists of 4 different episodes– and I think if I were to release half the episodes among the holiday craze in an effort to maintain consistency, it wouldn’t be giving the series the attention it deserves. So stay tuned for that series, starting the first week of January.
OK? We’re all good. It’s all good. We’re all going to come back revitalized and refreshed in 2019.
OMG, 2019…can I just tell you how excited I am for the new year. I am in total GO mode. I think anybody who knows me would say you’re always in GO mode, but something shifted in my brain over the past few weeks that really put things in overdrive. I’m really honing in on the areas of my business that need improvement, that need more attention and focus. And I’m really starting to create specific strategies around specific goals for the upcoming year.
And actually that reminds me, if you’re on my email list, you received an end of the year assessment/ survey from me. If you’re one of the people who took a minute to fill that out, please know that I greatly appreciate it and that all of your feedback is important to me as we move into the new year.
If you are not on that list, I encourage you to get on it…I’m going to be sending out new free content in the near future and only the people on that list are getting it. To sign up for free, just go to shainaleis.com.
Anyway, so as I’ve been brainstorming ideas and getting new plans of action onto paper, I couldn’t help but reflect on these past few years and how much work and dedication and commitment and consistency and countless hours I’ve put into getting my coaching business up and running and turning it into a full time profession.
It’s been a lot of sweat!
And that’s what I want to talk to you about today– how I’ve managed to stay motivated in the creation and development of my business and how I remain motivated day in and day out…even with the busyness of life and distractions. Even when things don’t go my way. Even when I don’t make that sale. Or when I get a bad review or mean comment.
How have I stayed motivated when the external rewards aren’t always instant? When things get really tough and I hit rough water? When I get really tired and exhausted? Or when fear consumes me and that voice says “You’re not good enough to do that.”
Even through the lowest of the lows (and there’s been plenty believe me), how do I just keep finding the motivation to see my dreams through?
That’s the question I want to answer for you today. Being somebody who’s been on the roller coaster ride of it all and then some and continues to do so (because it’s a ride that you never completely get off of), my hope is that my personal insight can inspire YOU to take action, commit and not give up.
When I sat down and asked myself: Why am I so motivated? Like why was I putting 6 hours into making a YouTube video every week? Why did I spend 15 hours yesterday editing my website, stopping only once to eat? That is not an exaggeration my friend. Why am I recording this podcast, when I could be drinking a glass of wine and watching a movie?
And the most obvious answer for me is because I find so much joy in what I do.
Now, notice what I said there. I find so much joy in what I DO.
I hear a lot of people say, I know what my passion is, I just can’t seem to sit down and work on it. I know what my goal is, I just don’t have the motivation to get down and dirty with it.
A lot of us look outside of ourselves for the motivation to do the thing that we want to do. But the truth is, our motivation comes from doing the thing we want to do.
I’m motivated every day to take ongoing action within my business because setting exciting goals and the process of working toward those goals is what brings me joy. And what brings us joy is what intrinsically motivates us.
I don’t get joy from looking at my bookshelf. I get joy from reading the book. I don’t get joy from staring at my computer screen. I feel joyful from actually sitting down and writing content. I don’t experience joy from thinking about creating a course. Sure, I might get excited at the thought of it, but that excitement is what then drives me to ACT and actually create my course.
It took me 9 months (9 full months, sometimes 13 hour days) to complete my course from start to finish. And during that 9 months, I was not waking up every morning, saying OK, I gotta get motivated. How can I get motivated? No. I just sat down and I started writing. And then when that flow state takes over, and your consumed by this activity that brings you joy, your off to the races.
The more action that I take in my business, the more motivated I am to take more action. Because it feels good. My progress is what keeps me going. It’s the satisfaction that I feel internally from the challenge…from bringing something to life that had only existed in my mind…that’s what keeps me going.
So if you have an exciting goal– a passion, it’s not motivation that you’re lacking you guys. Because the motivation is in the task itself. It’s the self-discipline to start and/ or complete the task that you’re lacking.
And WOW what an AHA moment this is for me. You’re witnessing it right now. Yes, I am a highly motivated person, but guess what? You are too. We are all highly motivated people. We are just motivated (intrinsically) by different things. And that’s why I preach the importance of discovering your unique thing– your passions, desires and likes. Because when you find those things, then you can connect with them…
You can then, in the words of Steven Pressfield, just put your ass where you heart is.
And you’ll see that by engaging with your passions and caring for them through your attention, the motivation you seek is there– inside of the task toward your bigger goal.
So I’m not any more motivated than you. I’ve just A.) taken the necessary time for self-discovery and figuring out what lights me up and B.) I’m a highly self-disciplined person.
And what does being self-disciplined look like?
Being self-disciplined means learning to hold yourself accountable (or hiring someone to do it for you like a coach), it means not making excuses, learning to manage your mind, creating the time (and not blaming time for why you aren’t taking action) and ultimately take full ownership for you and your choices. It’s about waking up with intent– I’m going to do this today.
When I say I’m going to do something, I do it. I put my ass where my heart is. And not just in my career, but in my everyday life. If I say I’m going to empty the dishwasher, I do it. If you recommend a book for me to read and I say I’m going to read it, I read it.
And a big part of why I operate this way is because I know that only action is real. I know that to get what I want and see the results, I gotta do something. And that productivity is so powerful.
I value having a tidy, clean home so if I want the dishwasher to be empty, I empty it. Otherwise, it doesn’t get done and I haven’t achieved this cleanliness goal of mine– a daily goal that’s important to me and brings me joy– having a clean, organized living space.
I really wanted to make changes on my website yesterday as I’m gearing up to do some rebranding. Well guess what? It wasn’t getting done unless I took action. So I leaned into the task and I got it done. Sure it took 15 hours and it’s not near completion (I have so much respect for web designers), but I enjoyed it. The process brought me joy which motivated me to keep going and ultimately feed a bigger vision of mine.
My goals and dreams are way too important to me not to ACT. I hold a very clear vision of where I want to go in life and what I want to achieve. I am hungry for it. And I am willing to do whatever it takes to get it. Because I know that if I use excuses or blame or feed into everyday distractions, my life is going to look exactly the same tomorrow as it does today.
And I want it to look better. Always. I want to continue growing and evolving and creating and reaching more people every single day.
And I know that’s not achieved through sitting on the couch, binge watching the newest show on Netflix.
Now of course that doesn’t mean I don’t take time to relax and unwind, life is a balance. I just don’t buffer on a daily basis–I don’t use things like TV or shopping or drinking or other false pleasures to divert me from long-lasting success and fulfillment.
And a big reason for that is I know the difference between the feeling state of buying a new sweater and that of for example completing a podcast episode.
Buying a new sweater is easy. I can get in my car and go to the mall or better yet, hop online and instantly purchase a new, comfortable, beautiful sweater. And that purchase feels good in the moment. And then maybe I feel this “high” when I wear it for the first time at a party.
But then the high wears off. And then what happens is we continue to buffer and then we shop again for something new. Because we chase that high. And then what happens, is our goals are just pushed aside, pushed aside, pushed aside.
But ya know what guys. The “HIGH” that I get from how much I’ve achieved, the thousands of hours of content that I’ve created, the clients and students I’ve served, the business that I’ve built, that is a deep, long-lasting satisfaction that you can never ever experience with a sweater or shoes or that new show on Netflix. It’s unlike anything you’ll ever experience.
And because I know the difference, I choose my goals…every time. Why in the world would I ever STOP doing the things that bring me genuine joy?
So if you’re struggling to put your ass where you heart is, I encourage you to start with the tiniest goal. If you dream of writing a book, commit to writing one page, that’s it. Just commit to writing one page. And familiarize yourself with that feeling state…both the flow state of the creative process and then the satisfaction you feel afterwards from the challenge and achievement of it.
It’s kinda like exercising. So many of us find it so difficult to get to the gym. But when we finally get there and commit to the challenge and finish our workout, we feel amazing. And I’ve heard personal trainers tell their clients, remember this. Remember this feeling next time you’re hesitant to wake up, put on your workout clothes, and get in your car and drive to the gym. Remember this feeling next time you’re resistant to showing up! And making excuses and not holding yourself accountable.
Now chances are you’re already committing to something in your life that brings you joy. For all you dog lovers and owners listening. If your dog brings you a lot of joy, I’m sure that you find the time to cuddle him, and love on him and play with him, give him a bath and take him for a walk or to the park. Right?
If you can learn self-discipline and engage with your big passions and goals, the same way you make time and embrace your other sources of joy in life, you’ll start to get the wheels turning.
Now, not everything that I do in my business and for my business is enjoyable. Not everything lights me up. So how do I stay motivated when for example, the tech stuff is frustrating or boring or overwhelming?
Well for starters, it’s as simple as knowing that the only way to the other side is through. Like I can’t just ignore or skip over the tech stuff. If I want my content to reach people across multiple platforms, it’s something that must be tackled and ensured is working properly.
And as you get going in turning your passion into a profitable career, there’s always the option to outsource, barter, and better the tasks that aren’t as much fun. However, I don’t want to get too ahead of myself with all of that.
I do want to say this though. Passion is the driving force behind what we do and why we do it. It brings us joy, we feel intrinsically motivated to keep going, yadadada. All good and great.
But what’s even more powerful, than just having a passion for something and to achieve goals that your passionate about, is forming your clear purpose behind it.
Now again, you might think, well isn’t the purpose of pursuing our passion for the mere fact that we find joy in it? Like I’m doing this because it feels great to work on this.
And there’s nothing wrong with that obviously, and in the beginning that general WHY (why you do what you do) is fine and it will take you a lot further than somebody who doesn’t love what they do.
However, what I’ve come to learn is that as you really get going and are in the thick of turning your passion into a profitable career, and things get overwhelming and sometimes messy and like I was just saying (tasks come up that aren’t in complete alignment with your essential self), that general purpose of “Well, I enjoy this” doesn’t cut it anymore.
And here’s why. Turning our passions into a full-time career is not easy. It takes a lot of our strength and willpower and time and effort. So if our sole focus is on me, myself and I, and what I’m gaining from it, we’re more apt to get really frustrated and throw in the towel.
Because yes, coaching and creating content for you guys and recording this podcast brings me so much joy. But guess what? So does a lot of other stuff that I’m passionate about. I can feel the same sense of joy that I do right now when I’m organizing my closet or spending time with my family and friends or sitting outside listening to live music and dancing. Right? We are multi-passionate beings.
So when things get tough and rough in the process of bringing my dream to life, it would be much easier for me to quit because it’s like well, I’m not having fun anymore. And isn’t that the purpose? Right?
So what I recommend, once you’ve discovered your life’s calling, is to get crystal clear on your deeper purpose or mission statement– what value are you providing others with? What value are you putting out into the world that’s in service of something greater than yourself. Who are you helping? What bigger change are you a part of?
When you can approach your work from a place of service, it keeps you focused and aligned.
And actually refining my personal mission statement is one of my goals for the new year. Lot’s of movement in 2019. I feel it in my bones.
OK, that’s it for today guys. Remember that you are a highly motivated person, you just gotta put your ass where your heart is and the only permission you ever need to do that is your own. Thank you so much for listening as always. I’ll see you next time. Bye!