In the Power of Now, Eckhart Tolle talks about the observation he made when two ducks got into a fight. When two ducks fight, they will float away in opposite directions, flap their wings forcefully to release the built up energy and then float off peacefully together as if nothing has happened.
What do you think would happen if a duck had a human mind? The duck would probably be thinking:
“How dare that duck disrespect me! He thinks he’s the king of the pond. Just wait until I show him who the real leader is. I will never be a friend to him again. I can’t believe he would do something like that.”
Then, the duck would probably go tell some other ducks, get fired up again and the story plays on and on and on.
As humans, we play the same story in our minds for hours, days, months or even years after an event has played out based on our perceptions of what occurred. We carry the fight within us long after it’s over.
Let’s take a lesson from the ducks. Next time you catch yourself generating thoughts and emotions from something that’s already happened, stop and flap your wings. Learn to let go.