How To Bounce Back From Failure On The Way To Your Dream

May 18, 2015 | Written with Love By: Shaina Leis

Let me just start by saying, WOW! This following your dream stuff is not easy. My mentors were right. This is much harder than I expected.

Granted, I’m smack dab in the middle of two life-changing events all while building my business, but it’s one obstacle after the other that I’m trying to hurdle over as elegantly as possible. (memories of hurdle jumping in gym class, eeek!!!)

I think to myself, “If one more marketing strategy fails, that’s it! I’m out of here. Nothing’s working.

And then once I’m done taking a tantrum, I find myself giving it another go.

This is me getting back on the horse- even when it feels like that damn horse has stomped and stamped all over me.

In the midst of my “hero’s saga”, I pride myself on this quality. Otherwise, I would’ve given up by now.

Sure, I consider a high level of optimism to be part of my DNA, which is helpful, but it goes further than that…

I have a dream and a strong desire to achieve it. And that my friends will take you far.

There’s no pixie dust to get you back on your feet when your “million-dollar idea” fails or you didn’t get that job. It takes some serious willpower, internal motivation and optimism.

Do you have what it takes? Of course you do! It’s not always easy, but that’s OK because we can do hard things.

Here are 5 tips on how to quickly bounce back from a fall (or a fail):

1. Remind yourself that it’s normal. Making your dreams come true is hard work and the phase of falling down over and over again is often a long and frustrating one. This doesn’t mean that your dreams are misguided. It just means you must get through the rocky terrain, as does everybody who succeeds.

2. Know that with every failure, you’re one step closer to victory. This has not only gotten me through some icky periods, but it’s also pushed me to do some scary things. The only way to the other side is through. So, get comfortable with the uncomfortable and get used to failing. The faster you can do this, the faster you’ll end up where you want to go.

3. Revisit your future (the original dream). You’ve already created a mental blueprint of where you want to go and what you want to achieve, so when you get knocked down, go back to that place in your mind. By making the choice to visit your original vision (often), you’ll reignite the feelings of excitement, joy and passion- the same feelings that got you started on your dream are the same feelings that will keep you going. TWEET THAT

4. Get back to your happy place. It’s so easy to forget why we started something in the first place. We get caught up in the nuts and bolts, how we’re going to market ourselves or how we’ll make money that we forget why we love doing what we do. OK, maybe nobody wanted to buy your painting at the art show, but that shouldn’t take away from your love of painting. Go paint! Are you tired and frustrated trying to find a publisher for your book? Pause and go write again. Stop and notice when you’re trying to force a particular outcome. Chances are you’ve lost your happy place. Make it your first priority to get back there.

5. BELIEVE in yourself and your dreams. You already have some strong beliefs that are serving you quite well; otherwise you wouldn’t have made it this far. But, it’s a muscle that must be stretched everyday. The ongoing opinions and criticism of others and the thoughts around our own failed attempts must be managed in order to keep moving forward. Create a strong belief that you can go back to time and time again when you find yourself losing hope.

For example, “All my dreams WILL come true,” or “I am on my way to greatness” or “This is just a bump in the road. I’m one step closer.” Choose the one that resonates with you or create your own.

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