How To Keep The Faith Even When Things Feel Really, Really Bad

February 27, 2015 | Written with Love By: Shaina Leis

You get laid off from your job. Your relationship is over. Your bank account is down to a single digit.

We all experience unforeseen events in our lives that leave us feeling like our world is coming to an end. We feed into the worst-case scenario about what each event means for our future until we are on our knees praying for a miracle to come about.

However, most of us don’t realize that the glimmer of light we’re searching for in the darkness can be found inside of us at all times. We have the power to feel better right now, no matter what the circumstance.

Here are five ways to seek faith in the midst of chaos:

1. Clear away any messy thinking.

In order to restore your faith, you must be aware of the lies that you’re buying into.

Grieving any type of loss is necessary, but attaching yourself to the negative thinking that accompanies it is optional. For instance, “I’m going to be alone for the rest of my life” or “I’m never going to find another job like that” or “I’m going to end up on the streets.” These thoughts leave you feeling dejected and uninspired about your future.

Once you’ve identified the negative thinking that is weighing you down (and ultimately making your situation much worse than it has to be), come up with at least three reasons why each thought is a big fat lie.

By letting go of your fear, you make room for your faith.

2. Choose a better feeling, replacement thought.

Just as suffering is optional, so is optimism. A strong, positive belief has the power to make you feel incredibly hopeful.

For example, “Everything happens for a reason” or “There’s a light at the end of the tunnel” or “There’s something better in store for me.” These thoughts can create an instant sense of relief and calm within, and even a greater feeling of acceptance for what has transpired.

Use a comforting, but powerful mantra that works best for you. How will you know if it works? By the way it feels.

3. Think back to a time in your life when everything turned out just fine.

In times of uncertainty and despair, we desperately crave some kind of assurance that our futures still look bright despite our recent meltdowns. But, most of us don’t realize that we already have the evidence to prove that everything will be OK.

Reflect back and recount hardships in your life, both big and small. Write about those experiences and what you were thinking and feeling at that time. Then, write about how everything worked out just fine- and most likely better than before! This is your proof to validate brighter days ahead.

4. This too, shall pass.

Take comfort in knowing that you aren’t going to be where you are forever (although it may feel like that). Something will eventually give. It always does.

I can’t tell you how many people have said to me, “If I could go back, I wouldn’t have spent all that time worrying.”

Once you believe that something beautiful will blossom, you don’t have to be so scared. In fact, you can actually relax. Just breathe and learn to trust that everything is working out in its own time, as it should.

Know that after every drought, there comes rain.

5. Realize that it’s not an ending, but a beginning to something wonderful and better than before.

When a crack appears in our life’s foundation, we are quick to assume that this is negative.

We tend to obsess over how perfect our ex is or how amazing our job was after we lose it. But, if you take a closer look, you’ll come to find that it was anything but perfect. After all, it crumbled right?

You have a huge opportunity to repair the “cracks” so that your foundation is stronger than ever. How do you do this? Get honest with yourself. Reevaluate what didn’t work and what you want differently moving forward. Get clear and set new intentions.

This “breakdown” of yours is actually a breakthrough in disguise. You’ll come to realize that your “bad” circumstance is what’s driving you into a more fulfilling life.

Have faith that the best is yet to come because it is.