By the time we hit our Twenties we are so used to being told what to do by our parents, teachers and society in general. It’s no surprise that when we’re forced to make some pretty tough (or even small) decisions, that we become paralyzed. Deciding which opportunities to take, what moves to make or even what shoes to buy, can weight us down if we aren’t accustomed to taking the reins. Let be clear. When I refer to the “right” decision, I’m talking about:
The choice that’s right for YOU
I’m talking about the choices that are in alignment with your deepest desires and preferences. It’s what is in your best interest.
I wish I could tell you what to do, but I can’t because I have no idea what’s best for you. And guess what? Neither does you parents, friends, teachers and society in general- no matter how much they’ll convince you otherwise! In order to start making better decisions that lead you on the journey you’re destined to travel, you’re going to have to rely on yourself. But, don’t fret! Below are some tips on how to make the decision-making process easier and less stressful.
1. Ask yourself, “Do I need to make a decision right now?”
Most of the time, we put a lot of unnecessary pressure on ourselves to figure it out and figure it out right now! If it’s a decision that doesn’t have to be made right away…be aware of that. A go-to thought like, “I don’t need to decide right now because I know the right answer will come to me with time,” can relieve some unwanted tension.
On the other hand, if it is a pressing matter, still learn to relax. When we create stress around the decision, it can actually cause us to make an undesirable choice. Pay attention to any uncomfortable feelings you have around the time stamp. It may be an indicator that the timing is just not right!
Take comfort in knowing that if you don’t choose to do anything and remain at a standstill…you’ve still made a decision – a decision to do nothing.
2. Get rid of the “I Shoulds,” “I Have Tos,” and “I Cant’s”
Our minds have no idea what’s best for us. All our minds are concerned with is trying to fit in. Notice when you’re rational for making a decision sounds like, “Well, I should go to graduate school because that’s the right thing to do,” or “I have to stay at this job I hate if I want it to look good on my resume,” or “I can’t do that because everyone will think I’m a failure.”
This is not coming from an inspired, authentic place. So, if you’re making decisions from this place, please stop! This is not the path to your dreams. It’s the path to someone else’s.
3. Listen To Your Body
Unlike your mind, your body holds all the answers. In fact, it can never lie. Just as your body sends out red flags to warn you that you’re headed in the wrong decision, it will also signal when you’re headed in the right one.
Find a quiet place to sit or lie down. Take a few deep breaths, ground yourself in the present moment and feel into each part of your body. Then, to your mind, bring fourth just one of the choices you’re weighing. Don’t try to analyze or add any additional thoughts around the neutral choice. Notice how your body feels. Does your body feel heavy or light? Where in your body do you feel it? Is there tension somewhere or do you feel free as a bird? Do the same exercise with any alternative choices.
When it’s a decision that isn’t right for you, you’re body will contract and there will be tension somewhere. Pay attention to this. When something feels delicious to your body, you’ll feel a sense of lightness.
4. Take Inspired Action
Inspired action is always accompanied by feelings of joy, excitement and enthusiasm. Use visualization to test out your choices:
Do you feel exhilarated when you think about this new job, new move or new painting class? Do you feel inspired when you think about it?
When an opportunity or choice connects to that truer, deeper part of you, a sense of inspiration will be prominent. If you feel it, run with it!
5. Ask, Get Still & Wait for the Answer to Come
When you don’t know what to do, ask the Universe for guidance about what to do. Scream it from the rooftop or write it down in your journal. Then, get still and wait for the answer to come. Go about your everyday life in the present moment and TRUS T that the answer will come to you.
This has been my decision-making technique since as long as I can remember. Why? Because the answer ALWAYS comes. Not through my mind and not through the words of somebody else, but through my GUT. It hits me like a ton of bricks and in that very moment, I know what to do.
When you follow your gut, it’s impossible to make the wrong decision.
If It Doesn’t FEEL Right, Don’t Do It
Period. If there’s doubt, don’t do it. Follow what feels liberating.
Follow what feels like freedom- that is your path.
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