“Each of us has an inner thermostat setting that determines how much love, success, and creativity we allow ourselves to enjoy. When we exceed our inner thermostat setting, we will often do something to sabotage ourselves, causing us to drop back into the old, familiar zone where we feel secure.” – Gay Hendricks, The Big Leap
Whenever I hear story about a celebrity who has spiraled out of control, addicted to drugs or who has landed in prison, the term “self-sabotage” comes to mind. These are people who have worked hard for what they desire, but manage to destroy everything that they’ve achieved. So what gives?
Well, ladies and gentleman, it all comes back to the mind. Many of us believe that we are frauds, not worthy or deserving of the success we’ve obtained, in which we will subconsciously take action to bring ourselves back down to the “level” that we think we belong. Many of us fear that others will see us for who we really are- not talented enough or good enough- so we self-destruct in order to prove our theories true.
What was Britney thinking when she shaved her head? What was Lindsay Lohan thinking at the moments leading up to her run-ins with the law? What is Chris Brown thinking right now?
Since our inner thermostats are usually set in early childhood, the way to dissolve these destructive thought patterns is to shine a light on them. Once you’re aware of the thoughts causing the havoc in your life, you then have the ability to change them so that you can produce a supportive mental state instead of an undermining one.
We all deserve to experience an abundance of joy, love, wealth and success and we all are capable of doing so without the urge to sabotage ourselves along the way.
We tend to assume that feeling good all of the time is impossible or having things go our way all of the time is unachievable. If we believe that it’s impossible, we will prove that true.
Are you willing to consider that feeling fantastic, consistently, is possible? Are you willing to believe that oodles of success is attainable?
Can you think back to a time in your life that everything was going great and then you did something to ruin it? Ask yourself, “how might I be standing in my own way right now?”
It’s time to free yourself from your own limitations because if you don’t believe you’re deserving of your dreams, you’ll never make them a reality or you’ll find a way to demolish each and every one.