How to Be More Positive!

September 2, 2015 | Written with Love By: Shaina Leis

I’ve always considered myself an optimistic person and for a while I just assumed it was a positive personality trait- magically appointed to me at birth.

Now I do believe that someone “up there” sprinkled an extra dose of optimism into my DNA, so that I could help other people tap into their own. Because, duh, this is my calling.

However, the choice to walk around with a “positive penny” personality is just that. A choice!

Believe it or not, you do have the ability to see your rainy wedding day as good luck or the loss of your job as a blessing in disguise. You can look at a breakdown as a breakthrough and a “failure” as nothing but one step closer to success.

It’s a mindset.

And every mindset is adopted and can 100% be changed.

Let’s be honest, nobody likes a Debbie Downer. And when we drown in our own self-pity and/ or negativity, the action we take (or inaction for that matter) reflects this attitude.

Optimism does not equal naivety. In my opinion, it equals happiness, productivity and fulfillment.

In this week’s video, I talk about 7 ways that you too can become a true optimist…no matter what situation you’re facing!

CLICK the IMAGE below to watch this week’s video!

Have a sweeeeeeet week : )

With gratitude and much love,

xo

VIDEO TRANSCRIPT

What’s up guys?

So one of the things I’ve noticed lately, especially over the past few months, is people telling things like, you’re always so happy, you look so happy. And it’s not that I’m always happy. A.) I don’t think it’s possible to always be happy and B.) There are situations that I do let my inner demon come out…

It was a weak moment.

Anyway, I’ve always considered myself an optimistic person- and for a while I thought it was just something you were born with, it was part of your personality or it wasn’t.

I mean I am a Pisces after all!

(I swear I’m not one of those crazy zodiac people)

But, knowing what I know now, I know it is absolutely 100% a choice whether or not you see the glass half empty or HALF FULL *HAND MOTION) (pixie dust in full glass of martini)

Really? I mean what are you trying to say here??

Now, being an optimist does not equate to naivety. I am well aware that bad things happen, in my personal life and in the world and sometimes things don’t go the way I want, but I simply adapt to what’s going on around me.

My choice to look at the brighter side of things has gotten me through some of the hardest experiences- when I was working bad jobs, when I moved 3,000 miles away from home, breakups, you name it!

My point is when life gives you lemons, you make lemonade.

Before I get into my top tips, I decided to take this week’s concept to a whole new level!! Take a look!

Alright guys, here are 7 ways how you too can become a true optimist and go from crappy to happy- regardless of the situation you’re facing.

(With the exception of LA traffic)

1.) Grieve. Yes, even sunny personalities grieve. In fact, I let it all out right away..it helps me bounce back quicker, from whatever’s transpired.

2.) Don’t fight the uncontrollable.
Because you will lose 100% of the time. If it’s raining on your wedding day, then it’s raining on your wedding day. How will you make the best of it given your circumstances? If you got fired, you got fired. Once, you’re done grieving, to continue arguing against reality, will get you absolutely no where.

2.) Ask yourself: What’s perfect about this?
This is my #1 favorite question of all time. It pulls out an opportunity from what may seem like a hopeless situation. If you’re not used to looking at a breakdown moment as a breakthrough, reach if you have to. The more you do this, the easier it gets. Make a list- what is perfect about it right now?

This is my #1 favorite question of all time. It pulls out an opportunity from what may seem like a hopeless situation. If you’re not used to looking at a breakdown moment as a breakthrough, reach if you have to. The more you do this, the easier it gets. Make a list- what is perfect about it right now?

4.) Be grateful. This is the true essence of looking at the glass half full. Shift your focus to what’s good right now. It’s one of the most powerful habits you can create.

5.) Find the humor in it. There’s no better way to make light of a situation than to laugh at it. Especially if you have a friend that’s kind of a jokester and you know will make you laugh about it, make a date to see that person.

6.) Have a go-to saying. It’s important to have a belief that you really, wholeheartedly believe in that helps you weather the storm. Some of my all time favs are “This too shall pass,” “Everything happens for a reason” “Something even better is in store for me” and “It wasn’t meant to be.” Now, of course your go-to belief is going to vary based on the specific situation. But, you come up with a saying or phrase that clicks for you.

7.) Surround yourself with happy people, because nobody likes a Debby downer. We’re always feeding off the energy of other people, so it’s important to spend time with people who uplift and inspire you, rather than bring you down into their dark hole.

I really hope these tips are helpful for you. Life is always going to have its up and downs, ebbs and flows, but remember it’s never what happens to you, but rather how you respond to it.

I hope you all have a SWEET week!

Bye guys.

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