The timing of this post is a bit ironic. I’m sitting here, ready to talk about our flaws and insecurities when I stumble upon a YouTube video about a woman addicted to plastic surgery.
As I was watching it, it was hard to understand why this woman believed it was necessary to have 54 cosmetic procedures (yes, 54!) to look and feel beautiful.
And just as I predicted, with each surgery she didn’t feel any more beautiful.
Now of course we don’t all take drastic measures when it comes to our own insecurities, but if we don’t know how to accept them, we’ll end up experiencing a similar internal struggle.
This week, I not only share my tips on how get rid of your insecurities, but I also share my stance on permanently changing your physical appearance.
with gratitude and much love,
Hey there, welcome back my friends. If this is your first time here, I’m Shaina, it’s nice to meet you.
You are watching this video right now because…
A.) There are things about yourself that you don’t particularly like and it’s taking a toll on your self-confidence.
B.) You have zero imperfections and just want to take pity on the rest of us.
C.) You just love me and my videos…can’t say that I blame you. I love you too!
Whatever your reason, I’m glad you’re here. Today I’m going to show you how to get rid of your insecurities. Sort of. It’s more like learning how to accept and embrace them. Same thing!
We all have our insecurities and weirdly enough, almost all of mine surfaced in my twenties, not my teens. So here are my quick tips on how to love and welcome your flaws with open arms:
1. Get comfortable and sit with your imperfections. You want me to what?
The more you ignore or avoid your insecurities, the harder the punch feels when you face it head on.
I’ll tell you when I started editing my videos, SMH, things were not good. (me hiding in my sweatshirt).
I was forced (and still forced) to stare at myself and listen to myself for hours on end. Torture.
Why does anyone like me?
I look like that?
Wow, I am SO annoying. (shiver with disgust)
But with each week that goes by that I’m forced to be with myself and all the nooks and crannies that make up who I am – the easier it gets to just accept myself.
Let’s say, you go heavy everyday with makeup, it’s going to be a very unpleasant experience for you when you have to look at your naked face. Most likely you dodge mirrors, you don’t jump in the swimming pool because you have to hide your insecurity from other people. It’s exhausting. I challenge you to get familiar with your insecurities and get to know them.
You may not get to a place where you’re ecstatic about your clown feet, but you will and that’s ok. But this step will get you to the place of “this isn’t such a big deal, it’s just part of my package.”
2. Remember that we’re all struggling with something. While you struggle with your love handles, your neighbor is struggling with their over emotional self. You’re not alone. And believe it or not, even models and people you consider perfection, have their insecurities. Nobody gets a free pass on this one.
3. People don’t care about your insecurities nearly as much as you think they do. They’re too concerned with their own. Don’t flatter yourself. It’s like when you think somebody can’t stop staring at your huge pimple, but in reality they didn’t even notice until you said something. It’s kinda like that.
4. Focus on all the things you love about yourself. It’s very easy to wish we had something that someone else had. Instead, shine a light on all the things you love about yourself. And really accentuate those traits.
5. Learn to laugh it. When you learn to laugh at yourself, you learn to love yourself.
There’s nothing like a little self-deprecation to lighten the mood. If you’re acting all uncomfortable and awkward because you’re insecure, people don’t want to be around that. And then when people peace out because you’re being all self conscious, you think it’s your bikini body that scared them away, but in reality it’s your attitude and over apologizing about your body that caused them to run the other way.
6. It’s only a flaw if you believe it is.
Your flaws don’t make you unlovable or unworthy, it’s your thinking about your flaws that cause you to feel unlovable or unworthy. Somebody with the same extra junk the trunk thinks it’s fantastic while you think differently. Same asset (get it, asset) different mindset. You may not be able to change something about yourself, but you can always change your perspective.
7. Change it. Sometimes you can change it. If it’s a personality trait that you’re not crazy about it, you can take steps to better it. You know you’re needy, but you want to work on being more independent. Great! As far as physical insecurities, I’m not saying run out and get bigger boobs, but as somebody whose had plastic surgery, I’m not against it, but you’d want to make sure you’re doing it for the right reasons- that it’s coming from a deep, connected place and not from an egotistical stance all up in your head. But I can do an entire video on plastic surgery in the future…
That’s it for today guys. If you enjoyed this video, don’t forget to give it a thumbs up, subscribe to my channel if you haven’t already (it’s completely FREE) and I’ll see you next week! Bye.
Hi there! I'm Shaina Leis- founder of this inspirational space :) I'm a Certified Life Coach with a passion for helping young adults better themselves and their lives. In this blog, you'll find general advice, career guidance and so much more. Have fun!