When I was forced into adulthood, (luckily) I was somewhat prepared on how to manage multiple responsibilities.
I had been working full time since the age of fourteen, doing my laundry, paying my own bills, cleaning up after myself and so forth. Learning how to be independent at such a young age helped me avoid the “wake up call” that many young adults experience today.
I’ve just learned to get my sh** done! I figure out what needs to be done and I DO IT. End of story. No excuses. No self-pity.
But, this is not to say that I don’t hit rough patches sometimes. I still feel overwhelmed from time to time and let my priorities slip away on occasion. Not to mention, the ongoing thought that everyone else is having fun, while I’m being responsible. (insert eye roll emoji)!
With that being said, continuing our “Back to School” video series, to WATCH, “How to Handle Multiple Responsibilities,” click the image below!
with gratitude and much love,
Hey guys! Welcome back. If you’re new here, I’m Shaina Leis. It’s nice to meet you virtually.
Today, I’m talking about “How to Manage Multiple Responsibilities.” (oooooohhh) “That’s right.”
I’ve missed that guy!
Aaah the demands of modern society. If you’re juggling a lot of balls, you’ve come to the right place. Working full time, going to school, making time for family & friends and wearing clean underwear at the same time can feel like a lot.
Here are my tips on How to Manage Multiple Responsibilities…
Procrastination is like a credit card, it’s a lot of fun until you get the bill.
I don’t understand how procrastinators do it. When you have a long list of to-dos and you aren’t staying on top of it, it takes a toll on you mentally and how do you not do things.
My advice is to just do something. Don’t let your responsibilities keep piling up. If you have a research paper to do, that you’re avoiding like the plague, but you also need a car wash. At least go get your car washed. It’s not exactly the priority, but at least it’s something off your list versus doing nothing. It’ll clear up some of that mental space.
Make a To-Do List. Get organized and get clear on exactly what needs to be done by writing it down. As you cross off each item, it motivates you to keep going. Important point: Break big responsibilities into smaller ones.
When I need to do a video, I don’t just write, “Complete a Video,” I write, “set up equipment, film, upload footage, edit footage, upload final video, add annotations, add description, two thumbnails, blog speel, newsletter, promote.”
One huge “To-Do,” one big chunk is going to feel too overwhelming and then you’ll be back to procrastinating.
Reward yourself. Don’t go out and buy a steak dinner because you took the trash out. Make sure the reward fits the task. Maybe you treat yourself to an ice cream cone for cleaning you’re apartment or if it’s a bigger task like completing that 20 page research paper, you buy some new shoes.
Take time to do something you love. If you don’t squeeze something in every once and while that you really enjoy doing, chances are you’ll get burnt out and cranky.
Make sure you’re maintaining a…Good balance between work, school, family & friends, hobbies, odd + ends, and personal time. Figure out what you value the most and cut back accordingly.
Use the 4’Bs. Bag it. Barter it. Better it. Boundary it.
Let’s say you have a family reunion to attend, but you have a huge test to study for and 3 other pretty big to-dos that day.
First, you ask yourself “Can I bag this? Can I just not go?” (Maybe right? Or maybe you think, I value family and I haven’t seem them in a while, so no, not going to bag it.”)
Can I barter it? No, because no one can take my place.
How can I better this? Well, I haven’t seen a friend of mine in a while, so I’ll kill two birds with one stone and bring her with me. Great!
Can I boundary it? Yup. It’s from 1-5pm. I’ll go from 1-3pm so I have more time to study.
Bippity boppity boo.
So you go through each responsibility (small and big) and ask yourself the 4’Bs. It’s a great way to make your tasks more enjoyable and help you determine which ones you can cut out completely or have someone else do for you.
Something that tends to come up when you’re trying to manage a ton of responsibilities is the frustration you feel when people around you are not.
When your roommate comes in and is like “hey wanna go to happy hour.” “Bitch, don’t you know that I’m working.”
It seems like everyone else is having the time of their lives, except you. I’ve only had one major breakdown about this and it was in college. I turned into a 5-year old, and was like “THIS IS NOT FAIR!” If you want to feel sorry for yourself, then fine, but know that you’re doing it to yourself. And when you’re done throwing a tantrum, bounce back and
Remind yourself of WHY you’re doing these things. Guys, we don’t HAVE to do much of anything. I don’t have to pay my bills, but I choose to pay my bills because I value having a roof over my head. I don’t have to do laundry, but I choose to because I don’t want to smell. Reminding yourself of WHY you’re tackling these responsibilities and changing your verbiage from “I have too” to “I choose too” gives you back your power!!!
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Hi there! I'm Shaina Leis- founder of this inspirational space :) I'm a Certified Life Coach with a passion for helping young adults better themselves and their lives. In this blog, you'll find general advice, career guidance and so much more. Have fun!