Just a few years ago, I could barely form my own opinion in public, never mind walk around the city in a pink robe.
Sure, this particular act was solely for filming purposes- to exaggerate the point I’m trying to make- but my ability and eagerness to put myself out there over and over again on a daily basis is proof as to how far I’ve come in the “not caring department.”
Did you know that I attempted to make videos a few years back? Needless to say it was a disaster and an epic fail. Why? Because I was trying so hard to act cool instead of just being myself. (People pick up on frauds rather quickly!)
So how did I go from a “cool” copycat to the real, raw me that you see every week?
As you’ll see in this week’s video, it was a combination of learning to love myself (flaws and all), getting comfortable with the fact that not everyone is going to like me and realizing that outside opinion and judgment really have nothing to do with me (HUGE point).
People will ALWAYS judge you.. so stop trying to control (or prevent) it and learn to walk right into it, without being hurt + harmed in the process.
Have a carefree week!
With gratitude and much love,
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Hey guys. Welcome back, if you’re new to my channel, I’m Shaina and today I’m talking about “How to stop caring what people think of you.”
This is something that I’ve personally come a long way with. And I just thought it was a great topic because there’s such a huge sense of freedom that comes with just being yourself in the world and not worrying about outside criticism or judgment.
But sometimes that’s easier said than done.
So let’s get to it…
1.) Ask yourself: Why do I care so much?
If you’re trying hard to win everybody over, it’s time to check in with yourself and ask why do I care? Because when you’re so concerned with controlling how people see you, that’s 100% your personal problem. You’ll most likely come to find that you have some insecurities and thoughts about yourself that need some work. When we’re not confident, that’s when we look outside of ourselves for validation. But that’s a huge problem. Because then we rely on other people to determine our emotional state, we give them all of our power. If someone says I’m awesome, I light up, but if they say, “You’re an idiot” I break down. Don’t ever give someone else that power.
It’s time to look inward.
2.) Learn to love yourself and be comfortable with who you really are.
This sounds like an obvious point, but if you don’t like the person you really are, how can you possibly expect other people to like you?
Stop focusing on what they think and start working on the relationship you have with yourself.
3.) Know that not everyone is going to like you and that’s OK.
Embrace the fact that we’re all unique and have our own personal preferences, because life would be pretty be boring if we all just liked each other.
What is so bad about other people not liking you? Who the F*** cares? I choose not to focus my energy and attention on those people and you shouldn’t either.
4.) Outside judgments have nothing to do with you, even if they’re directed at you.
This channel is cool, said no one ever! You are so annoying to watch and, I hate you and everything about you and I’d be totally OK if I never had to see your face again.
Wow, that was really mean.
But, sometimes I annoy myself too..Oh well, can’t please everyone! Now what should my next video be about?
Ok guys, for example if someone says to me “You’re ugly.” Does that make it true? Only if you believe it to be true. That’s when it’s going to hurt and you’re going to CARE! Now, I don’t believe that I’m ugly, so that comment is going to be like a cloud passing in the sky.
That comment has everything to do with what’s going on in that person’s mind and has absolutely nothing to do with me. It’s not even my business to care.
5.) Nobody cares that much.
I always say this, but to think that you’re at the forefront of everyone else’s mind and you’re the center of their attention, obsessing over “What are they saying about me? What do you think of me? (whether good or bad) is kind of self-absorbed. Everybody is dealing with their own shit, they don’t care about what you do or say nearly as much you think they do. So get over yourself.
Alright guys, if you like what you see be sure to give this video a thumbs up and hit the subscribe button. I’ll see you next week! Bye.
Hi there! I'm Shaina Leis- founder of this inspirational space :) I'm a Certified Life Coach with a passion for helping young adults better themselves and their lives. In this blog, you'll find general advice, career guidance and so much more. Have fun!