Learning the Hard Way

Hi, I'm Shaina

I’m a Clarity Coach, mindset expert and interior design enthusiast living in sunny Los Angeles. I help people get unstuck and create a lifestyle they’re proud of.

I sat down the other day and asked myself: What does learning the hard way look like?

*God knows I’ve learned the hard way so many times ??‍♀️ and I’ll even throw that statement out there…Don’t do what I did. I learned the hard way!

But what does it actually mean? What does it look like?

I came up with 5 things.

Learning the hard way means…

1. Treating the effect, not the cause of a problem.

2. NOT taking time to self-reflect and lean into our *real* opportunity for growth. 

3. Being unwilling to listen and learn. It’s being stubborn and righteous in what we think is right (or true) and being unwilling to be WRONG.

4. Looking to other people to tell you WHAT to do instead of taking on that responsibility yourself + TRUSTING your own solutions.

5. Letting a situation get so bad before you seek a solution.

I believe that learning the hard way is sometimes an inevitable part of our unique journey and necessary for our own personal growth.

I also believe that many times, it’s completely 100% OPTIONAL.

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My guilty pleasure is Bravo!
Real Housewives, Southern Charm, Vanderpump, Million Dollar Listing...I watch it all.
I'm a sucker for anything nostalgic.
I still watch reruns of Dawson's Creek on the regular
I know the lyrics to almost every 90's song.
Nathan says it's my hidden talent
My happy place?
Summer days. I love the beach, being tan, cookouts and country music!
Monica Gellar is my alter ego.
Cleaning and organizing are my therapy
I always have a candle burning at home.
I have a cabinet full of them.
My favorite movie?
Father of the Bride.
If I weren't a life coach...
I'd probably be an interior designer or do something in TV/ film production. Any chance I get to visit sets, I'm all over it!

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