What I found early on in coaching is that people are ready and willing to give me 107 reasons why that can’t do something. My job as a coach is to help them realize the 108 reasons why they can.
It’s much easier to convince ourselves that something isn’t possible than why it is. Why? Because then we don’t have to do a damn thing about it.
Coming to the realization that something is possible is scary because that means we can’t hide from it anymore.
I don’t like excuses. It keeps you stuck and in victim mode.
I like solutions. It keeps you moving and in empowerment mode.
P.S. I know an “excuse maker” when I see one. It’s the person who continuously says, “BUT!” after a solution is presented to their obstacle.
Are you one those people? A person with one, huge, gigantic BUTT? Excuse me, I mean “BUT.”
If so, I conjured up what I think are the most popular excuses when it comes to going after what you want.
And I’m ready to SHUT each one down : )
To watch, “Stop Making Excuses!” click the image below…
with gratitude and much love,
Welcome back my friends. If this is your first time here, I’m Shaina and today, I’m talking about excuses- the excuses that are standing in between you and what you want.
I know you have them. You know you have them. You know what I’m f****** talking about.
I’ll never make money doing that, I have no time, I’m not smart enough, It’s too risky, I have too many responsibilities, I don’t know where to begin, I’m scared..
It’ll never work, I don’t have the resources…
I’m not coming to your pity party and I ain’t partaking in your blame game.
Here’s the truth: YOU are the reason you are where you are. You are the reason you have the things you have, and don’t have the things you want, in the type of relationship you’re in, and so forth. Both the good and bad in your life, you’ve created. So if there’s an area of your life that you’re not ecstatic about, you must stop making excuses and start taking action to change it.
I have a list here of popular excuses that I’m going to read off and then I’m going to SHUT each one down.
I don’t know what I want. Well I guess you better figure it out then. This is not a valid excuse. I didn’t know what I wanted, but I took steps to figure it out. So once you stop complaining you can start exploring.
It’s too risky. I could fail. Oh yea? Well ya know what else is risky? Not going after what you want. You’re risking your happiness and your health. Stress causes sickness and if you ask me heart disease is risky. Real risky. Think about that! While we’re on the topic, ya know what’s scarier than failing? Settling for a life that’s comfortable, but not spectacular.
And as somebody unknown once quoted on the internet somewhere, “Don’t be afraid of losing, be afraid of playing the wrong game.” It’s deep.
I have too many responsibilities. Unless you’re a single, white female…wait no, that’s not right (color bars)…unless you’re a single guy or gal with no kids, having too many responsibilities can make things harder.
But, I’m still not buying your story of “I can’t.” Look at Stephen King. He lived in a trailer with his wife, both of them worked multiple jobs to support their family while pursuing their passions. He was so poor and received 60 rejection letters before selling his first story.
And if you do have kids, what better way to teach them about hard work and love, than by working hard toward something you love.
I don’t know where to start. Sure you do.
You sit down your ass down, make a list of what needs to be done and do it. Just do it.
I don’t have time. Ahhh my ears. I have three words for you, “make the time.” Boo ya!!
I can’t afford it.
Look at JK Rowling- author of Harry Potter books. She was so broke she couldn’t even afford a computer, but she still figured a way out to make writing happen.
The world doesn’t owe you anything and yes it comes with a lot of sacrifice to go after something you want, but it costs far less than you think to take the first step.
I’m not __________ (blank) enough to achieve that. You’re not what? Huh? You’re not smart enough? Good enough? Talented enough? What, what, what?? Well guess what? I’m not buying that either. And neither should you. STOP believing all the crap that you’re telling yourself.
If you have a dream, and this dream of yours feels so right, unlike something you’ve ever felt before, than you ARE capable of achieving it. Because that’s what you were born to do. The big guy upstairs is not going to give you a special gift without the power to see it through. So stop telling yourself you can’t because you’re not BLANK enough. You are blank enough. (quote of the day with a ding sound effect)
It’s too late.
It is never too late to go after your dream.
I’ll never make money doing that.
Listen to me, if money is important to you then money will come to you through what you love. It won’t right away and you may not even have an idea of HOW it will make you a lot of money, but it’s not your job to figure out the how. All you need to do is to follow your bliss, a little bit, everyday and see where it takes you. And TRUST that the rest will follow.
(this is my favorite) I’m waiting for the right inspiration.
Yea let me know how that goes.
People tell me it can’t be done.
Good thing it’s not their dream then, huh?
The economy is too bad right now.
If you’re waiting for something outside of you change, you’ll be waiting for a very long time. Your inability to go after what you want starts and ends inside. Change your mind, change your life my friends.
We live in a world where people will come up with any excuse as to why they’re not winning. Why they’re not moving, succeeding, changing. Excuses are not real reasons, they’re just stories to justify not pursuing something we want. Stop telling yourself you can’t, and start taking action to show yourself you can.
That’s all for today. If you like what you see, remember to like this video and be sure to subscribe to my channel! Thanks for watching. See you next week. Bye!
Hi there! I'm Shaina Leis- founder of this inspirational space :) I'm a Certified Life Coach with a passion for helping young adults better themselves and their lives. In this blog, you'll find general advice, career guidance and so much more. Have fun!