What’s REALLY Holding You Back?

April 13, 2016 | Written with Love By: Shaina Leis

One of the things I enjoyed most about working with one on one clients’ was witnessing the moment that something “clicked” for them- when he or she suddenly had a revelation of some sort.

Getting to the root of any area of least satisfaction is not only freeing, but extremely beneficial (and crucial) to breaking a cycle and solving a problem for good.

Working with a coach is definitely one of the easiest ways to do this, but just the other night, leave it to some good ole’ fashion girl talk to do the trick.

I had a huge “light bulb” moment that hit home so hard, I couldn’t just brush it off. Because when you figure out what’s been holding you back, the only way to be truly free is by releasing it.

This week, I wanted to use my power moment to help you shine a light on an area of your life that doesn’t feel complete- to inspire you to ask the question:

What’s holding me back?

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with gratitude and much love,


Hey guys welcome back to me channel. If you’re new here, I’m Shaina. I’m jumping right into today’s video…


I had some serious revelations a couple of days ago, and not only was it so insightful for me and moving forward, but it was also like holy fuck, this has been holding me back for years and I never even realized it.

Now, I am obviously a very self-helpy person, I’m a life coach, (I know how our minds work, I self coach, I question things, and so forth), so to think oh my gosh it’s taken me this long to figure out the control this has had over an area of my life, crazy.

I think about you guys (and I’m totally generalizing right there) who may not be as savvy in the mind management area right? Knowing OK when I think this, I act like this, this is why this is happening. It’s having a real sense of awareness. When I think about people that don’t have that, I’m like “man, the number of illusions that people are living by everyday is incredible.”

It has to be. Because if I’m practicing this shit everyday and I’m still having them, then shoot.

Rewind back to my light bulb moment- it was a real raw moment for me of WOW, when we believe something so intently (whether that thought is serving us and taking us where we want to go or whether it’s not, which in my case it wasn’t) that belief becomes so embedded inside of us, so buried within our subconscious, that it becomes harder and harder to identify. It takes a lot of digging. And if we aren’t even willing to go digging, which most of us aren’t forget it, this one belief runs the your life.

I just wanted to use what I experienced this week, to help you guys wake up and see the light.

What area of your life do you feel stuck or stagnant? What area of your life do you feel closed off too?

And then ask yourself what’s holding me back??

And work your way down to the real, raw truth of the answer.

I guarantee you that the first, second, third answer is not the truth. You’ll be skimming the surface and there will be some helpful information there, but keep peeling that onion. Especially if you’ve been stuck in the same cycle (whether it be jobs relationships), there’s something inside of you that’s been keeping you there.

For example, you’re stuck in a job you hate, you’re scared, sure maybe. But dig down deeper and you’ll find that it’s really because 10 years ago, that asshole professor told you you’re a terrible writer and would never get published. You’re closed off to dating, you’re scared, again sure, that’s a part of it. But it’s really because you still believe that you and what’s his name are going to work out down the road. There’s something that you told yourself- or something someone else told you that you’ve hung onto and living by. Something that has a control over you.

I’m here to tell you to figure out what that “HOLD” is and let it go.

What’s holding you back is a belief in something. An illusion. An investment in something that’s not real!!

To live up to your full potential, to open yourself up to the world and possibilities, you must let go of the crap that’s stopping you.

My hope is that you take something from my power moment and find that same sense of power and enlightenment in your own. That’s it for today. Like this video if you liked it. Subscribe if you haven’t. I’ll see you next week. Bye.


Hi there! I'm Shaina Leis- founder of this inspirational space :) I'm a Certified Life Coach with a passion for helping young adults better themselves and their lives. In this blog, you'll find general advice, career guidance and so much more. Have fun!