How to Stop Negative Thoughts & Self Doubt for Good!

April 20, 2016 | Written with Love By: Shaina Leis

We all have a voice inside of our head. It’s the voice that tells us when we’re not good enough or when we can’t do something or when everybody else will disapprove of our actions.

This voice is not necessarily bad. It’s just extremely misinformed.

Which is why it’s so important to learn how to manage it- how to get it on your side and get it working with you instead of against you.

I like to think of this voice as a permanent roommate that never shuts up. The truth is I can’t just kick “her” out. So the way I see it, I’d much rather create a calm, positive environment with her than to maintain a hostile one.

(sounds a lot like real life ; )

In this week’s video, I show you exactly how to do that in 4 simple steps.

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Today, I’m talking about how to stop negative thoughts and self-doubt for good.

Because when we have all that negative chatter in our head, it stops us from going after what we want and becoming who we want to be.


1.) Separate yourself from that voice. If I could teach one thing and one thing only to children, this is what it would be. I lived the majority of my life thinking that the voice inside of my head was me talking- because of this, I believed everything it said to me. When it would say, “You’re not good enough, you have to do this or you can’t do that” I listened and followed it’s instructions. I took my thoughts as reality, as the absolute truth and lived by it.

Know that you’re not that voice. It’s not YOU talking. And in fact, that voice has no idea what’s best for you. I like to think of it and even picture “her”, as this annoying, roommate that never shuts up. You can even name that voice to form a clear distinction between it and your authentic self.

2.) Pinpoint the thoughts.

What is this roommate of yours telling you that you’re completely buying into? Is it saying, “Dude, you’re stuck, you ain’t ever getting out of this job. Girl please, you think that you deserve more? Yea right!”

The majority of us let that voice run the show…it’s become a habit. It becomes our master. To take back control, to switch roles and get this voice to be our servant, we must be aware of what it’s saying and what we’re believing.

3.) Question it. Talk back to it. Laugh at it.

Once you’ve identified the thoughts that aren’t serving you in the direction you really want to go, you can start to dismantle them one by one.

For example, that voice keeps saying, “If you change directions, people will think you’re a failure.” The first thing to do is question it. Am I really going to be a failure if I do this? Or how will I be a failure if I don’t change directions?

Once you start questioning these thoughts, you realize how ridiculous and untrue they really are. Talk back to this voice. I do this all the time. I say, “I hear what you’re saying. I know you’re concerned, but this is what I want.” Don’t ignore it, just acknowledge it. And then you laugh at it- mock it. You know by now how ridiculous and overbearing it can be, that you’re just like “whatever.”

4.) Replace that thought with an empowering one.

Your “roommate” is not going anywhere so it’s much better to create a positive environment up there instead of maintaining a hostile one.

For example when I was at a job that I was really unhappy at, at first I was believing that voice when it was saying, “You can’t leave. You’ll look like a fool. You have to stick this out.” Once I replaced that crappy thinking that was keeping me stuck, with the thought, “The way to be truly happy is to follow my own path,” that replacement thought felt much better to me, it felt empowering and it led me to where I am today.

That is how powerful our thinking. Change your thinking, change your life. Find better feeling thoughts that resonate and create a fire inside of you. That’s the key.

That’s it for today guys. If you found this video helpful, give it a thumbs up below, remember to hit the subscribe button and I’ll see you next week. Bye!


Hi there! I'm Shaina Leis- founder of this inspirational space :) I'm a Certified Life Coach with a passion for helping young adults better themselves and their lives. In this blog, you'll find general advice, career guidance and so much more. Have fun!