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Hey guys. Welcome back, I’m Shaina Leis if you’re just joining for the first time. Today, I’m talking about How to Cope With Death- a topic that I’ve wanted to do for a while now. A few years ago, I lost my dad unexpectedly at the age of 49 and it was the first experience I had with losing someone close to me. So it’s just a topic I wanted to talk about today- because coping with the loss of anyone that you love is of course not easy. So let’s get started. 1. The first obvious point to coping is to GRIEVE. Cry, sob, let it out…just feel through your feelings. I had never felt so emotionally drained in my entire life the first 72 hours of my dad’s passing, but that’s because I really let it all hang out. Now of course, we each do it in our own time and that’s fine, but make sure you’re facing the truth and mourning fully when you are ready. 2. Lean on other people. This is one of those times that you need other people the most. So gain the support and comfort you need from people that are A.) experiencing the same loss you are, B.) people that have experienced similar loss in the past and can empathize or C.) people who are just generally compassionate and there for you. 3. Notice when you’re harboring regret and/ or guilt. Whenever you lose someone, the first feelings that come to the surface are regret and guilt. I should have called more. I could have done this. If I had only done…Pay attention to when you’re having those thoughts- know that’s it normal and we all experience it, but that it’s dirty pain that can be healed by changing your mindset and what you tell yourself. 4. Memories. One of the first things we did as a family was go through old pictures and that was just a really sweet activity in the midst of all the sadness. So frame your favorite picture of this person, collect special mementos …just take some time to reflect and relive the happy memories. 5. Adopt or validate a strong sense of belief. I was raised Catholic so I’ve always had a belief in God and Heaven. But, it wasn’t until I lost my dad that I realized how grateful I was to have such a strong sense of faith. Believing that my dad was OK, that he was safe and that I would see him again one day, when I too leave this Earth, brought me so much peace. I also read a book, called Second Chance that validated what I already believed which was also very comforting. Now of course you don’t need to be Catholic or believe what I believe in after death, but it’s SO important to believe in something that makes you feel better. 6. Start to slowly shift your focus away from sadness. Get back into a routine, focus on what you’re grateful for, find the beauty in each day moving forward. Just because you may be getting back to your life + trying to smile again, doesn’t mean you’ve forgotten about this person you’ve lost. They may be gone physically, but you can of course keep their spirit alive. And lastly, 7. If you feel like you still haven’t fully coped and grieved then seek help. It is not a sign of weakness, but strength…wanting to better yourself is admirable. And speaking of bettering and help- I highly recommend BetterHelp- a way for you to communicate with a counselor via message, live chat, phone or video conferencing. In just 24 hours or less, you’re matched with a counselor and it’s as low as $35 a week- way more affordable than typical counselors. So whether you’re grieving a loss or dealing with any mental health issue such as anxiety, depression, addiction, you can find the BetterHelp link underneath this video in the description. That’s it for today guys. Thanks for watching. If you found this video helpful, be sure to give it a thumbs up. Subscribe if you haven’t already and I’ll see you next week. Bye!
Hi there! I'm Shaina Leis- founder of this inspirational space :) I'm a Certified Life Coach with a passion for helping young adults better themselves and their lives. In this blog, you'll find general advice, career guidance and so much more. Have fun!