How to Be Happy Single (And Alone)

June 28, 2017 | Written with Love By: Shaina Leis


Did you know that I was in a long-distance relationship for 5 years?

YES, you heard me correctly…5 friggin years.

In a sense, it was like I was single (or at least alone) for a very long time. I didn’t reap the many benefits of being in a relationship.

But surprisingly, I was VERY happy being by myself.

Which is why it’s hard for me to understand some peoples’ desperation to find a relationship and avoid single status at all costs!

I just want to tell those people, “It’s fine. You’ll be OK. You don’t need somebody else right now.”

So I guess this video is my attempt to do just that!

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Hey guys, Happy Wednesday. I’m Shaina Leis. This is the channel where you learn, laugh and get inspired all at the same time. So you may not know this, but for the first 5 years of living in Los Angeles, I was in a long-distance relationship. So although, I wasn’t technically single, I was by myself. I didn’t have the normal benefits of being in a relationship- I didn’t have somebody to do things with every day, a physical shoulder to cry on or somebody to sleep with at night…and to do other things with. Parental guidance advised. Anyway, although it was hard at times, I was still happy without somebody by my side and I actually really valued that time alone. So that’s what I’m talking about today: “How to Be Happy Single + Alone!” For all you single ladies out there riding solo. Let’s go. As I was gathering my thoughts for this video, I realized that along the way, I had adopted a belief that kept me happy for those 5 years and it was this: A healthy, long-lasting relationship is formed when two people, who are the best versions of themselves, come together. So because I strongly believed that, I was determined to work on myself (first and foremost) so that I could have a truly happy, healthy relationship…whether that be with the person I was with or somebody else. This became my new goal. With that being said, the first way to be happy single and alone is to make bettering yourself your daily purpose. Are you doing work your passionate about and creating your own success? If not, get to it. Are you fully secure in yourself, what you have to offer and what you deserve? If not, get going. Focus on yourself, instead of chronically dating and trying to find + cling onto someone else. Do NOT think (for a second) that you will fill voids by finding a man. Important points are worth repeating. Dependency leaves you 100% powerless. It’s a word that makes me cringe to my core. And no man wants a needy girl. There’s nothing more attractive that an independent woman who has her shit together. Also, Don’t make your single status mean something it doesn’t mean. It doesn’t mean that you’re unworthy, unlovable or that no guy wants to touch you with a 10-foot pole, it just means your single. That’s it, no added interpretations of the facts. Take advantage of this alone time! Just remember that one day (when you’re not so single), you’ll be living and breathing the same air with the same person every day. So embrace the selfishness. Enjoy your free time. Dance in your own space. Oh yea and that whole compromising thing (that you’ll have to do), it’s not easy. So build your life from the truest expression of who YOU are. Before you’re forced to compromise. Decorate your living space with all your favorite things. Do the things you love most on the weekends. Create things of value to share with the world based on your passions.   And then when you’re ready, allow yourself to dream and sketch a picture of your ideal partner. Now, that you feel like a rock star on your own, figure out what you want + need in that perfect somebody to share the stage with you! That’s it for today guys. Be sure to LIKE this video if you enjoyed it, SHARE it with your friends and SUBSCRIBE to my channel for a new video every Wednesday. Also, jump on my email list for your FREE gift. Link is down below. I’ll see you next week. Bye.


Hi there! I'm Shaina Leis- founder of this inspirational space :) I'm a Certified Life Coach with a passion for helping young adults better themselves and their lives. In this blog, you'll find general advice, career guidance and so much more. Have fun!