How to Deal With Haters!

October 28, 2015 | Written with Love By: Shaina Leis

If you have a dream, don’t be surprised if other people don’t fully support or embrace it. Skepticism and doubt are common feelings and in fact, they keep other people from going after their own dreams.

One of my favorite stories of all time is of a man named Walt Disney.

I’m sure you’ve heard of him : )

Nobody- and I mean nobody, believed in Walt’s vision for Disney World, Snow White, Pinocchio, and all the other characters whom now, are all household names. Without any investors, Walt funded theme park drawings and movie productions with his own money, until other people started to see what he saw.

On opening day of Disney World, a man commented on a TV program, “It’s too bad Walt didn’t live to see this.

The host replied, “But he did. That’s why it’s here.

I love that!

Your dream may seem impossible to other people, but that shouldn’t stop you from going after it.

Consider yourself lucky. You have a vision that only you can see. That’s pretty cool wouldn’t you say? Take comfort in knowing that one day, everybody will see it too, but until then, learn how to deal with those nasty naysayers and cynics that come your way.

Click the Image below for this week’s video: Dream Killers! How to Deal with Naysayers.

With gratitude and much love,

xo

VIDEO TRANSCRIPT

Hey guys! One of the best experiences in life is when you discover what your real dream is. And I think it’s because we carry it around, literally, since we’re born so when we finally unwrap this gift of ours, it’s pretty incredible.

At first, you become the most optimistic person …you’re like YES I found my dream, I’m going after it and nothing is going to stop me.

I have a dream to knit colorful scarves and feed children of Uganda. I feel so free. Anything is possible!!

But, then outside judgment rears it’s ugly ugly head.

It really knocked me down!

OPENING

OK, There are two types of dream killers.. The ultimate dream killer…yourself (that self sabotaging behavior) and the second, which I’m specifically talking about today is other people.

People around you who help fill your head with fear, doubt and uncertainty.

Now of course, naysayers don’t show up with scary masks, they’re usually just regular ol people in your life. Maybe a parent, a “friend,” a teacher an ex boyfriend (who is probably not the best source of guidance anyway).

They are the people who don’t get your vision, think it’s impossible or you’re being irresponsible. They think you’re living in la la land. But guess what?

Here are my 5 tips on how to deal with nasty naysayers when it comes to your dreams:

Number One: Don’t try to convince them of your dream. This is exhausting and never works because we can never control another person. And the more we try to get somebody else to see our dreams (when they clearly don’t), the crappier we end up feeling. Let them have their opinion because your inability to do so, is your problem…not theirs.

Number Two: Have a prepared response. Never let a dream killer catch you by surprise.

It’s OK to know (ahead of time) what you’ll say if and when someone tries to bring you down. Otherwise, you may (by habit) go into defense mode. And that can just get real messy.

For example, you may say something like:
I can understand your concerns, but this feels right to me.

I hear what you’re saying, but I respectively don’t care.

Number Three: Check in with yourself.

Pay attention to the pessimistic views you’re buying into. There will always be haters. And that’s OK.

It’s when you believe their reasons why your dream won’t work, that it becomes a problem for you. If someone comes along and says, “Ha, yea right that’s absolutely impossible, the field is too competitive,” and you find yourself feeling down and depressed afterwards…that’s your alarm clock telling you…oops I just handed the steering wheel to that person.

Be aware of who’s in charge of your life at all times. If you’re conscious to when you’ve given up control, you’ll have the power to quickly reel it back in.

Number Four: Pinpoint the people in your life who are on your side. Dealing with a naysayer is a lot easier when you have a group of people that are encouraging you.

Personally, I’ve been very fortunate in this area. I’ve always had a long list of cheerleaders so I can tell you that it helps a lot.

Make a list of all your fans and jot down all the supportive things these people have said to you. Talk to these people, spend time with them. This is your new tribe!

Number Five: Remember that: The people who don’t understand your dream (or vision) are usually the people who don’t understand their own.

This is one thing that I’ve noticed over the past few years. It’s the people who aren’t necessarily doing what they love (or the ones playing it safe so to speak) that are the first ones to question and disagree with my choices.

Listen, anyone who’s brought a dream to reality is well aware of the long process, the risk, etc. so they’re going to understand and empathize with you.

Don’t let somebody who’s not going after their dreams stand in the way of you going after yours. This is your one life, make it great.

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