How to Get People to Like You (Really Quickly)

September 21, 2016 | Written with Love By: Shaina Leis

If someone were to ask you what your top 5 personality traits are, what would you say?

Outgoing? Adventurous? Balanced? Friendly? Hardworking? Empathetic? Dedicated? Neat? Intelligent? Optimistic? Passionate? Humorous? Liberal? Selfless? Ambitious?

…the list goes on. In fact, here is a list of 638 primary personality traits I found on the internet:

(I challenge you to go through the list and highlight the traits you think you possess).

Personally, I’ve always considered myself to be highly likable. I have this natural ability to connect and be “liked” by people with all different types of personalities. And over the past few weeks, I’ve realized what a wonderful trait it really is- to walk into any room and leave a lasting impression on almost anyone that you meet.

So today, I wanted to share my “secrets” with you so that you too can become the most likeable person in any room.

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with much love and gratitude,



Hey guys, what’s up? Happy Wednesday. I’m Shaina Leis if you’re just joining us.

Today, I am talking about how to get people to like you, really quickly. I don’t mean this specifically in a romantic way, but just generally speaking- when you’re out, in a public place, meeting new people.

I was inspired to do this video because I have always considered being likeable as one of my top 5 personality traits. And this past weekend, I realized what an awesome trait it is to possess- to walk into a room and have the ability to create a lasting impression on almost anyone that you meet. It’s pretty cool.

So with that being said, here are my quick and effective TIPS on how to be the most likeable person in any room:


1.) You MUST be confident in yourself.

When you’re confident in who you are and you walk around with your head held high, with an “I’m Awesome” mindset, people can smell that and you become this magnet- where you draw all of these people to you. It’s like a crazy science experience. Confidence is a powerful thing.

2.) Be genuine. Be yourself. When you’ve achieved that level of confidence, this is easy. It’s so much easier to talk to people when you’re comfortable with who you are and not trying to ACT a certain way or hide something about yourself. When you put your real self out there, people in turn feel very comfortable in themselves…which makes for a great connection.

3.) Love people and love life. If you have certain expectations about people, and people don’t live up to those expectations, you’ll immediately put a wall up. When we’re quick to make judgments, we close ourselves off.

Giving off that cold vibe, will not get people to like you. If I have my arms crossed and resting bitch face, who’s going to want to get to know me. Nobody, except for that one person who finds pleasure in trying to “break” people.

When you go out into the world, with the attitude of loving life and people, you open yourself up and that’s a very attractive quality.

Sure there are times when I’m out and maybe I’m talking to somebody that I’m not connecting too, but I don’t SHUT down. I take it at face value and strive to have fun and always be friendly, which brings me to my next point…

4.) Smile and be happy. Happy, friendly people are contagious and people want to be around positive people- that exuberant this fun, care-free attitude. And in my opinion, why wouldn’t you want to be that person? That “light” in any room.

Think about a time you were around a really negative person. The person who complains about everything. Or the person who will tell you the sky is green, just to argue, for the sake of arguing. I have no tolerance.

P.s. Miserable people do not like me. Which, I’m OK with that- it’s like I have a built in force field to keep them away. (stay away!)

5.) Match and mirror to build rapport. This is a social skill that maybe you learned about in psychology class or something. It’s basically where you match somebody’s else’s mannerisms, tone or pitch of voice, volume, or how fast someone is talking.

So if someone has their arm like this, I can do the same. If someone is speaking really loudly, I can gradually raise my voice to match his or hers and so forth. There’s also backtracking where you almost repeat what they say.

If they say, “My business went under 4 years ago and I’m in real estate now.” You could reiterate the information and say something like, “So you’re business went under 4 years ago and you pursued a career in real estate. That’s really inspiring.” Or something like that.

Matching and mirroring helps to remove that FEAR of being different. As humans, we tend to feel much more comfortable around people LIKE us. So by using this skill, you’re able create that similarity with almost anyone.

That’s all for today guys. If you liked this video, be sure to hit the thumbs up, subscribe if you haven’t already and I’ll see you next week. Thanks so much for watching. Bye!


Hi there! I'm Shaina Leis- founder of this inspirational space :) I'm a Certified Life Coach with a passion for helping young adults better themselves and their lives. In this blog, you'll find general advice, career guidance and so much more. Have fun!