How to Tell People You Love…

November 16, 2016 | Written with Love By: Shaina Leis

Last week I posted a one-question survey asking all of you about your burning questions on the topic of happiness and finding your passion. Well, I received way more responses than I ever expected!

So thank you again to those of you who participated. It’s helping me tremendously as I create some cool new things for you guys.

And secondly, I was so impressed with the questions that I decided to start an entirely new Q&A segment on my channel.

So why not kick it off with a bang? Over the next several weeks, I will be choosing a viewer (and his or her) question to be featured on one of my videos.

I’m excited to switch things up as we head toward the New Year.

This week, we start with Dinah’s question! You don’t want to miss this one. To WATCH: “How to Tell Family & Friends You’re Changing Paths…” click the image below.

with gratitude,

xo

VIDEO TRANSCRIPT

Hey guys. Happy Wednesday. So I received a ton of great responses to the one question survey I posted up last week. So thank you again. If you’re on my email LIST, I know I’ve said that a million times, but I really appreciate it…and if you’re not on my list, you should definitely get on it because it’s FREE- the link is right below this video…and you get a complimentary gift. Everyone likes gifts. Who doesn’t like gifts!

Anyway, not only am I working on something really, really awesome for you guys that will address your burning questions, but starting today and for the next few weeks, I’ll be doing some Q&A videos- where I take a viewer’s question and answer it…YES! Let’s get going!

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Today’s question comes from Dinah! Dinah writes…

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This is a great question! So thank you Dinah.

The first thing I want to say is to make sure you’re not being too hard on yourself. You’re most likely consumed by fear, because A.) the anticipation of telling them and you’re like, “OMG, I just made this huge life altering decision.” But, you did it! You had the courage to take the first step, which is the hardest step in carving your own path- and you deserve to pat yourself on the back and give yourself some much needed credit.

The Delivery. While I can’t tell you exactly how or what to say verbatim, I will say A.) the sooner, the better (for your sake and theirs). And B.) Be 100% honest and speak from this newfound place of truth- because that’s all you can do.

“Hey guys, I love you, I appreciate you wanting wants best for me, but here’s what’s been going on, here’s what I’ve been feeling, behind the scenes and so forth.”

Your intention is good and pure. And if you want to preface with that, you can. “My intention is not disappoint you, but right now, I’m disappointing myself and I want to fix that and here’s what I’ve decided to do about it.”

And be sure to Avoid blame. (Well we wouldn’t be having the conversation if you all didn’t push me to do that). That’ll just get messy. Be transparent and also take ownership.

Prepare for the worst, but hope for the best. Sometimes the best thing we can do in these hard situations is to ask ourselves, “In my mind, what’s the worst thing that can possibly happen?”

By shining a light on possible outcomes, you can relieve a little bit of that fear by preparing yourself ahead of time and how you would handle it.

Allow your “everybody” (the people in your life) to have their own opinions. Each person will have their own response/ reaction and that’s OK, allow them to and expect that. Because it’ll have nothing to do with you, but rather everything to do with them- their reaction will be solely based on what they believe is best for you, or what their definition of success is.

If they can’t for the life of them understand this new path of yours, (shock), do NOT try to convince them. This is useless. Because we can never change someone else.

Instead the absolute best and most effective way to “convince” them of your choices is to show them! As you continue to follow what feels true to you, you will begin to blossom like a flower and I guarantee you (it may not happen right away), but they will come around when they see how happy and fulfilled you are. (And they might even ask you for tips on how you did it)

Stay true to your conviction. There will always be people in your life that may not understand your choices, but you don’t want to second guess yourself because of it. Remind yourself of WHY you made this decision in the first place and focus on the new path you chose.

Spend more time with the people who support your decision. This is a crucial time to be with your biggest fans who will be cheering and rooting for you! It’s not your responsibility to help other people FEEL better about your life choices; it’s your responsibility to feel great about your own.

I hope this helps you (and anyone else watching). Good luck, you got this!! Keep us posted.

That’s it for today guys, if you enjoyed this video, please give it a thumbs up right below, subscribe to my channel if you haven’t already and I’ll see you back here next week. Bye!

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Hi there! I'm Shaina Leis- founder of this inspirational space :) I'm a Certified Life Coach with a passion for helping young adults better themselves and their lives. In this blog, you'll find general advice, career guidance and so much more. Have fun!

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