Have you ever made a big decision only to second guess if it was the best decision in the end?
Yup, we all have.
Making mistakes is part of life.
And whether that mistake was part of your divine path or you just blatantly ignored what your gut was telling you to begin with, it’s ultimately how we handle those mistakes that matter.
Each and every one of us veer off course sometimes, but f you don’t know how to bounce back from a poor decision, you may stay put in the “wrong” space for way longer than necessary.
Today, I’m sharing my 4 quick tips on how to manage the “aftermath” of detours en route to your best life.
with gratitude and much love,
Hey guys. Welcome back. Happy Summer. Today, I’m talking about decisions, mistakes, regrets, oh my! Basically it’s when you make a decision, you realize it was a mistake and now you’re regretting it. We’ve all taken some detours on the road to our best life, some more than others, so today, I’m going to share my quick guidance on this topic!
Hey guys. Long time, no see.
I’m a big believer that everything happens for a reason. There are reasons we make the mistakes that we do. It’s part of life. It’s a part of growing and learning. But, how you handle those mistakes is where it’s all at!
So whether you’ve made a poor financial investment or jumped into a job that you realized it’s not for you or you’ve committed to spending your life with the wrong person…here are my quick tips to guide you back on the right track.
1.) WHY did you make the decision that you made?
There are plenty of reasons that could of led you to make the wrong decision.
You were doing the “right” thing. You were being pressured. You did it out of fear. It was an impulsive one. The alternative seemed too risky. It was safe. Everybody else was doing it. People would’ve thought less of me. I thought it would make me rich. Let’s just say you sold your soul to the devil.
You want to figure out which thought system led you into this mess in the first place…because you don’t want to keep making the same mistakes over and over again with your faulty decision-making process.
2.) Take ownership.
This is when you say “alright, I got myself into this mess, it’s my job to get myself out.” If we blame our choices on something or somebody else, we feel like a victim and we feel sorry for ourselves and we sit in that hole that we’ve dug, waiting for somebody to rescue us. Take responsibility, man up and start climbing out yourself. It’s the only way you can move on.
3.) What did you gain from this?
Ask yourself, what was perfect about veering off course? What were the benefits? Maybe you gained a good friend at that job, valuable knowledge in that investment, or a child from that relationship. Whatever!
And something you always gain is a lesson. There’s always a lesson to be taken. And it’s very important that you learn that lesson, otherwise you will be faced with the same tests over and over again until you have.
And sidenote: The longer you sit in the wrong space, the more unbearable it will become. Learn the lesson and get going, which brings me to my next point..
Now that you know what NOT to do in the future, you’ve taken responsibility for your actions; you’ve learned the lesson, what is your next move to better your situation?
If something isn’t working or didn’t work, and you know in your gut that this isn’t where you’re supposed to be or what you’re supposed to be doing, THEN it is time to start asking yourself what do I want? What feels right moving forward?
It may require some small tweaking or you may need a full on overhaul, but honor what that deeper part of you is telling you and let that guide you in the right direction.
That’s it for today my friends. Thank you so much for watching. If you haven’t yet subscribed to my channel, please do that now, LIKE this video if you enjoyed it and if we aren’t friends on Instagram, let’s be. See you next week. BYE!
Hi there! I'm Shaina Leis- founder of this inspirational space :) I'm a Certified Life Coach with a passion for helping young adults better themselves and their lives. In this blog, you'll find general advice, career guidance and so much more. Have fun!